During the course, you will apply neuroscience-based insights and practices that will calm your stress. During the 8 weeks, you’ll experience the benefits of a series of renewing mind-body connections. From these, you’ll create your own personal life plan, allowing you to continue holding your true calm center.
I had an incident with my partner that left me completely devastated. It brought back terrible memories of how my first marriage ended. I put up walls (something I was very good at) and felt like this relationship too was coming to an end. The Now Calm Course has truly saved our relationship. We learned so much about our own issues, triggers and fears. Our improved communication and understanding of each other has put us on a new positive path. We have learned how to communicate, how to notice when the other is triggered and what to say to keep the lines of communication open. It was hard at times, and yes there is work to do but we are on the road to happily ever after!
I felt drawn to this course because of interpersonal stress with communicating, feeling invalidated, perplexed, and disconnected. Jenny’s NOW CALM Method helped me to make unexpected discoveries and powerful changes in my relationship dynamic. Learning about brain chemistry, resilience, practicing mindful exercises, and understanding that gradual changes can transform not only my outlook, but others' is stimulating. I’ve been practicing, and observing that when I am self-regulated, it does invite co-regulating. I’ve come away with a wealth of practical, effective skills, confidence, and coherence within myself. Jenny invested years of experience and knowledge, along with genuine care for my personal growth and others in this course. With big thanks and appreciation Jenny!
Jenny's course has had such a positive effect on my relationship with myself and my relationship with my partner. We had been dating for a while (and are both divorced with kids), and we were a little stuck trying to figure out if we were ready to take the next step and blend our families and our lives. Experiencing The NOW CALM Method together, along with our couples sessions with Jenny, brought us so much closer and deepened our connection. By the end of the course we realized we were ready to take the leap and are planning our big family move-in. After a particularly difficult period of time in both our lives, I can say that this course has helped us feel so excited and hopeful for the future! This course has brought us so much closer together. It has also helped me manage my work-related and parenting-related stress in a much healthier way.
My girlfriend and I got into this course after having some issues moving forward in our relationship and it has helped us tremendously. I learned my fears and previous traumas were stagnating me from moving forward and growing. Becoming aware and using the lessons and practices from this course has brought great peace to my life. Our relationship and outlook on the future looks really good and hopeful. It was great to listen to others give feedback, and Jenny kept the course and lessons very fluid and easy to follow. I feel blessed. It has made a positive impact on all my relationships.
I started this course with an inability to find my center in a calm way very often. It helped me easily transition back to being a patient, calm supportive person. I now live with clarity and peace I've not felt in a very long time. My health has benefited from being more calm. My blood pressure is down a bit. I am more committed to daily exercise and self awareness. My relationship is better with these changes. Being able to view the lessons and work through them together with my partner has been a wonderful experience.
After losing my wife to cancer at an early age and working a career in the Emergency Services for 32 years, my emotional energy bank had been depleted. The NOW CALM method helped me understand why I had become impatient, tired and easily triggered by things which had been relatively insignificant in my past. After the class I now can find a calm, healthy, patient approach to the important people in my life. Triggering events that used to push me to the edge are now easy to identify and defuse. I've benefited greatly from the NOW CALM method and enjoyed the process of the class. I would recommended it.
My partner and I have had much better interactions since we started this course--able to make shifts in our communication for a better relationship. I've felt relieved that there is a recognizable way for us to communicate that we both understand and can implement.
It’s absolutely essential to be centered in the nervous system in order to bond with loved ones, learn new things and enact changes in your behavior. No one ever changes from a state of high stress. Even though we might feel motivated, we end up shutting down or disconnecting. True change and growth happen from the peaceful center.
What would it mean to you to experience your life this way – flowing from your peaceful, calm center? What kinds of conversations and connecting moments could you have with your partner or your children, friends and coworkers that could change the trajectory of your life? When your energy is clearly directed from your own wise mind and heart center, you’ll have access to the power of positivity that you know is there – but often gets lost in the chaos and conflict; the distractions and distress of daily life that pile on negative thoughts, feelings and beliefs.
Because of the integration of my understanding of neuroplasticity and adult learning theory, this attuned and engaging course, The NOW CALM Method will take you through quick, life-changing and healing steps! It’s what I teach all of my therapy clients, but now, in this course, I can do that in a format that is more reinforcing than therapy alone!
When you get The NOW CALM Method: Come Home to You, you’ll have access to the 6 core modules of this course on your own private membership site.
In Module 1, you’ll immediately receive my signature mindfulness practice,“The SUTTER SCALE for SELF-AWARENESS” based on the concept of interoception from the Polyvagel Theory. (Don’t worry – you never have to become familiar with any of the brain science unless you’d like to.) This simple practice begins to work instantly, and becomes the foundation for your new way to connect with yourself and others. You’ll learn and practice additional simple but powerful calming truths based on our body’s natural design. These first practices will be the foundation of the changes you continue to make through-out the course and beyond.
In Module 2, POWER VS. FORCE, you’ll identify which of your feelings and beliefs originate in forces from the past, fears about the future or the projections of others. You’ll recognize the difference between these forces and your true feelings and needs, and you’ll experience new freedom in your ability to shift out of negativity and return to your calm powerful center. With growing self-awareness, you’ll be feeling more deeply connected to your true self and communicating differently about what you feel and need.
In Module 3, NOW CALM – Notice & Practice – You’ll become the expert on your own journey as you implement and continue to practice what you’ve learned in the first 2 modules. New learning and practices will reinforce and build on your foundation. Your new awareness and compassion will open you up to live differently for yourself and also to share with and care about others in new ways.
In Module 4 Stay & Play – From your calm center, you’ll reconnect with the free-flowing part of you that gets lost due to the forces of stress in your life. You’ll notice that instead of living in “fight” or “flight” you can enter the state of the nervous system that I call, “stay and play,” or “listen, learn, love.” You’ll feel your energy expanding to create the experience of the life you desire.
In Module 5 The Power of Rhythms: Finding Time & Keeping Time, you’ll establish the rhythms your body and mind are craving, so that you can maintain and build upon the healing changes you’ve been making. You’ll address your needs for daily, weekly, seasonally and yearly rhythms, keeping your valued priorities in focus, and you’ll create your own unique action plan.
In Module 6 Mind The Gap – You’ll practice and reinforce all that you’ve experienced with focus on your new action plan. Keeping your rhythms, you’ll recognize and cross the gap that exists between the stressful ways of “doing life” in the past, and living into the future from the peace of your calm center.
I believe we all have an inner healer - a part of us that wants what’s best for us and will seek out what sustains our health and happiness when set free to do so. In The NOW CALM Method: Come Home to You, I’ve created a program that lets you activate and strengthen the healthiest parts of yourself while calming stress. You’ll feel calmer, which will impact how you communicate and show up in the world. You’ll shift out of the negative trajectories from your past and experience the power of presence through the unique experiences I’ve created to teach and reinforce key principles from neuroscience.Register here
Schedule a discovery call to see if The NOW CALM Method is right for you, please email me directly at email@example.com.
The stories we believe about our life situations and our relationships are all dependent on the state of our nervous system, in any given moment.
So it’s through calming and regulating our nervous systems that we will change our stories. Inner peace truly leads to all good things.
People come to me seeking healthier relationships, stronger boundaries and positive mental health changes of all kinds. The foundation for all healing lies in attunement and integration – in other words – awareness and connection. This is what I teach and empower you to do right away in The NOW CALM Method. It’s what I wish I had known when I was a young adult, trying to navigate the consuming responsibilities of career, partnering and parenting.
Through-out my life, I’ve been continually seeking the truth about how change, healing and growth really work and how changes can stick. There is a promise that those who seek will find. And I’ve been thrilled to be able to bring these healing truths to others as a therapist and writer.
I’ve taken this journey myself through my own personal practices. Going through cancer recovery in 2015, I chose to permanently put stress behind me, and promised myself I’d have a joyful, creative future, and I have lived into this promise, even during cancer treatment in 2015, and the pandemic of 2020. Yes, distressing things can happen around me, and even to me – but I’m not filled with worry. My nervous system stays regulated and centered.
And I’ve taken many therapy clients through this process.
I was an early student of the Polyvagel Theory and Interpersonal Neurobiology which emerged from trauma studies. As both a certified trauma therapist and certified Gottman couple therapist, it became clear to me that doing couple therapy without a clear understanding of the workings of the nervous system is like trying to do surgery without a strong schema for human anatomy. And this truth applies to all therapy.
The NOW CALM Method is excellent for a couple to take together. Think of an experience course like a journey. If you were going to take a trip together, you’d each need a ticket so you could both have a seat. Similarly, you’ll each need to purchase the course to obtain your own individual sites to work the program.
This will take you about 3 hours per week maximum, (possibly less) but you’ll also be able to expand many of the practices to take as long as you’d like, if you have the time. My background in communication and education has trained me to be very succinct, and I’m told I have a unique ability to simplify complex concepts to provide powerful applications. The material will be dispensed in small, digestible nuggets, so you get the maximum benefit for the least investment of your time.
Yes, for the first 30 days of the course, I’ll refund you for any unused portion. (Obviously, my time used for live and private sessions can’t be refunded.)
At UC Berkeley in the late 1980’s I did research on computer-facilitated learning. Later, I pursued a license in mental health counseling and started a private practice. I focused my continuing education in two different domains: trauma therapy and Gottman couple therapy, and earned certifications in both. In the decade of 2010, I served as a consultant in the Lifespan Integration therapy community, assisting other clinicians with trauma cases and guiding them through the certification process. I also write and publish many articles for The Gottman Institute’s Relationship Blog and other sites with particular emphasis on how the nervous system impacts the couple dynamic.
With f-mri equipment, researchers have been able to study the brain activity and health of those who practice various forms of mindfulness meditation and yoga. Personally, I’m a Christian contemplative, and have been practicing Centering Prayer and yoga for over 2 decades. Buddhism has developed a rich history in contemplation or meditation, and modern psychology has drawn upon all of these roots to develop Mindfulness practices which are non-religious, but are described and supported in various spiritual texts and traditions. I share some of this wisdom in the course, and I think anyone will find this history interesting and adaptive to personal beliefs. I don’t provide spiritual direction or specific doctrinal teaching.